Harriet Lerner Quotes

Only through our connectedness to others can we really know and enhance the self. And only through working on the self can we begin to enhance our connectedness to others.

We will be in tune with our bodies only if we truly love and honor them. We can't be in good communication with the enemy.

Differences don't just threaten and divide us. They also inform, enrich, and enliven us.

It is not fear that stops you from doing the brave and true thing in your daily life. Rather, the problem is avoidance. You want to feel comfortable so you avoid doing or saying the thing that will evoke fear and other difficult emotions. Avoidance will make you feel less vulnerable in the short run but, it will never make you less afraid.

Intimate relationships cannot substitute for a life plan. But to have any meaning or viability at all, a life plan must include intimate relationships.

Anger is a signal, and one worth listening to.