Merle Shain Quotes

Loving can cost a lot but not loving always costs more, and those who fear to love often find that want of love is an emptiness that robs the joy from life.

One often learns more from ten days of agony than from ten years of contentment.

Loving someone means helping them to be more themselves, which can be different from being what you'd like them to be, although often they turn out the same

Until you divest yourself of the notion that you are a collection of needs, an empty vessel that someone else must fill up, there will be no safe place to harbor yourself, no safe shore to reach. As long as you think mostly of getting, you will have nothing real to give.

Friends are like windows through which you see out into the world and back into yourself. If you don't have friends you see much less than you otherwise might.